‘You need to lose weight for me’: A Woman With Body Dysmorphia Gets Ridiculed By Her Boyfriend, Causing Her to Rethink the Whole Relationship

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    r/AITAH 21 hr. ago Disaster Naive 1971 AITAH for getting upset with my boyfriend after he told me to lose weight
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    Me (F24) and my bf (M29) have been together for a while and he knows my history of having anorexia/severe body dysmorphia when I was 16-20 years old. Today we had a conversation about how we've been planning to exercise together because it would be such a nice hobby together. Although the conversation went into body
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    types and I got offended when he told me that he would like me to lose some weight. I asked several times if he's seriously telling me to lose weight and he said yes. I started crying and felt worthless and explained him how his words hurt me but I didn't get any apology, just a smirking face from him saying that I shouldn't be so sensitive and that he did nothing
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    wrong. After that I pulled on the most covering clothes I own and made him some breakfast and didn't eat anything myself because I felt so uncomfortable around him.
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    In case you guys are wondering, I'm normal weight, gained a few (~5) kilograms after coming back from military in 2022 but those kilograms are long gone. I'm size S-M and I have curves on my bust and lower body, but under no circumstances that's anywhere near fat so am I the when his comments really went under my skin because of the past
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    my skin because of the past (which he knew about)? He also knew that I'm still suffering from the body dysmorphia.
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    NatashOverWorld • 21h ago Anyone who smirks after they know they've hurt you is a red flag. Simple as that. No one should enjoy hurting their partner. NTA
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    lazyclouds9 21h ago NTA. And if you have a history of anorexia, it sounds like this man is toxic in my opinion. If he's not able to be educated in eating disorders, I would probably considered parting ways tbh. Sounds like he's a danger to your health.
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    I have witnessed people lose weight for relationships and a lifetime of an eating disorder is a miserable existence.
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    madeiraglowkel • 21h ago You don't need to be with some guy who smirks after he makes you cry... I am so proud that you overcame an eating disorder, you are stronger than you will ever realise.
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    He is trying to make you smaller, not only in size but in confidence because he is weak You don't need a man who is so weak that he will use triggers to make you lose confidence in yourself S/M is not overweight...
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    Women have curves in their bust and thigh area because that was how evolution designed us so that we could carry and nurture the next generation if we choose to...It is literally survival of the fittest at work there... F>>> this guy, just show him the door...
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    Delilahpixierose21 • 19h ago You made him breakfast AFTER he insulted you?? YTA to yourself. He sounds like an absolute pig.
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    FitzDesign 21h ago So your boyfriend is an AH. Massive red flag being waved around him. Knowing your past, he actually went there and then smirked when you were hurt?
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    I'm sorry but it seems pretty obvious that his comments were deliberate and that he now needs to be your ex boyfriend. He will of course. call you too sensitive, it was just once, don't throw away all this time together, yada, yada, yada.
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    Do yourself a favour OP and dump him ASAP. Don't invest anymore time in this POS. Good luck!
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    SnooMacarons92... • 19h ago I think he's the extra weight you should lose
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    MinkMarten Rece... • 21h ago NTA dump him
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    Torilenays 21h ago If he can't respect you enough to simply not insult you to your face, drop him.
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    Satyriasis 457 • 21h ago Just say, grow your thicker then I'll loose weight
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    12heatedblankets • 19h ago Leeeeeeeve him. You were a military bad Why are you with a man who likes to make women cry? Gross.

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